Of all the presentations at this year’s Blackland Farm Managers Tour Aug. 3 at Southland Farms and Howell Farms in Pantego, N.C., one of the most pressing had nothing to do with boosting corn yields or managing fertility.

Jolene Brown, who farms corn and soybeans with her husband near West Branch in eastern Iowa, gave a talk, “Stop the Fighting on the Way to the Funeral Home.” Her bottom-line message: A family farm is a business first and foremost.

“You and I tolerate stuff in business that no one else would tolerate,” Brown said at the field day, stressing that just because a family member is part of the family, doesn’t mean they have to be a part of the family farm. In essence, a family member must bring value to the farm business and offer skills that help the business.

Some takeaways include:

Indeed, parents certainly owe their children love and support, but they don’t owe them a business. A family member must deliver value if they expect to be a part of a farm business. That’s a message not always easy to hear, but Brown says it is vital if you want your business to continue on after you are gone.