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The helpers

“Hey Suz, you got a minute?” … and other conversations that showed me what it was to be feminine on the farm.

Holly Spangler, Prairie Farmer Senior Editor

October 4, 2016

2 Min Read

My Sunday school class has been talking about women and femininity lately — specifically, what in the world it all means in 2016, and how our ideas about femininity have been shaped. This week, we raised the question: How did what you see growing up, in either of your parents, shape your ideas about what it means to be feminine?

I’m not a fast thinker, so this didn’t occur to me until after the question had been asked and answered by the group, but a singular conversation keeps coming to mind: Dad would lean in the back door and call out, “Hey Suz, you got a minute?”

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Granted, I was young, but I gathered quickly that this translated into “Mom’s day is shot.” Because what Dad really meant was that he needed help with one or more of the following: get parts, move cows, run to Rural King, disk a field, doctor a cow, or maybe move an auger. And it would take way more than a minute.

But you know what? She always said yes. She didn’t have a minute. She sometimes complained. But she did it anyway.

Mom was a helper to Dad, in the truest sense of the word.

“It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion.” Genesis 2:18.

We didn’t have other family involved in the farm, and no hired hands either. It was just Mom and Dad. She dropped everything to disk a field, help get a cow in, make a parts run.

We seem to talk a lot lately in agriculture about whether women should be called farmers or farmwives or “farmhers.” I can’t say I think it really matters. Honestly, I can’t think of anything I care less about. Call yourself whatever you’d like.

What I saw growing up was strength in the team, because they helped each other. They got stuff done. They didn’t always get along. But they worked together.

Back when I first brought John home to meet my parents, Dad told me (as we chased cows) that John and I needed to be able to work well together.

Turns out, I already knew that.

About the Author

Holly Spangler

Prairie Farmer Senior Editor, Farm Progress

Holly Spangler has covered Illinois agriculture for more than two decades, bringing meaningful production agriculture experience to the magazine’s coverage. She currently serves as editor of Prairie Farmer magazine and Executive Editor for Farm Progress, managing editorial staff at six magazines throughout the eastern Corn Belt. She began her career with Prairie Farmer just before graduating from the University of Illinois in agricultural communications.

An award-winning writer and photographer, Holly is past president of the American Agricultural Editors Association. In 2015, she became only the 10th U.S. agricultural journalist to earn the Writer of Merit designation and is a five-time winner of the top writing award for editorial opinion in U.S. agriculture. She was named an AAEA Master Writer in 2005. In 2011, Holly was one of 10 recipients worldwide to receive the IFAJ-Alltech Young Leaders in Ag Journalism award. She currently serves on the Illinois Fairgrounds Foundation, the U of I Agricultural Communications Advisory committee, and is an advisory board member for the U of I College of ACES Research Station at Monmouth. Her work in agricultural media has been recognized by the Illinois Soybean Association, Illinois Corn, Illinois Council on Agricultural Education and MidAmerica Croplife Association.

Holly and her husband, John, farm in western Illinois where they raise corn, soybeans and beef cattle on 2,500 acres. Their operation includes 125 head of commercial cows in a cow/calf operation. The family farm includes John’s parents and their three children.

Holly frequently speaks to a variety of groups and organizations, sharing the heart, soul and science of agriculture. She and her husband are active in state and local farm organizations. They serve with their local 4-H and FFA programs, their school district, and are active in their church's youth and music ministries.

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