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Throwback Thursday: A timely reflection as parents prepare to move their kids to college.

Shelley E. Huguley

August 5, 2021

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Shelley E. Huguley

*Originally published in the 2020 September Issue of Southwest Farm Press.

We've known since March that our oldest child's memories will forever be marked by COVID-19. "We're the class that had the last half of our senior year canceled." Or, "My class graduated at the drive-in theatre wearing masks and sitting feet apart."

But what we didn't anticipate in March is that this would extend into the fall. "We're the class that started college wearing masks and taking most of our classes online, though we lived on campus."

It's not the worst plight but definitely different than we imagined 18 years ago. I just hope the virus doesn't spread and the students get to stay on campus. Time will tell.

My daughter is majoring in agricultural communications. My farmer and I joke with her that this is the perfect major for her because he's her "ag," and I'm her "com," which likely draws a heavy eye-roll. The truth is she'll do just fine on her own, we just need to think we're still needed!

Since the end of May, entry into our daughter's bedroom has been limited, as graduation gifts earmarked for the dorm lined the walls and a narrow pathway. From pillows to wall décor to laundry baskets to a comforter, all carefully stacked in anticipation of the big move. Our Little, who has shared a bedroom with her since birth, likely had nightmares of these items coming to life and overtaking her twin bed.

As we packed up my daughter's belongings, I felt the ache. What I discovered is it wasn't loading all the gifts that tugged. It was the items that have decorated her dresser shelves or overflowed out of bathroom drawers littered with glitter from years of pep rallies and football games that struck a chord.

I would think I was handling all of this well, and then she'd say, "Do you care if I take this?" I would begin with an assured "no"  that would quickly break into a hard swallow and then tears.

I told her my tears aren't, "Don't go," rather, "Mom, let go." Moving out, growing up. Empty spaces. It's good. It's right. But it's hard.

As we hauled boxes into her fourth-floor room and began to unpack, the gifts that didn't trigger tears, reminded me of our community. Each gift had a family or individual connected to them, some immediate family and out-of-town friends, but mostly our little rural town. I thought about the love and encouragement she's grown up with from so many here. It's amazing what an impact a population of 2,000 (on a good day) can have on a life.

She's beginning a new chapter. And my farmer and I couldn't be more thankful for the deep roots she has in Olton, Texas. We're grateful for her foundation and thankful, that no matter where life takes her, she will always have a place to call home.

See, Making a home away from home


About the Author(s)

Shelley E. Huguley

Editor, Southwest Farm Press

Shelley Huguley has been involved in agriculture for the last 25 years. She began her career in agricultural communications at the Texas Forest Service West Texas Nursery in Lubbock, where she developed and produced the Windbreak Quarterly, a newspaper about windbreak trees and their benefit to wildlife, production agriculture and livestock operations. While with the Forest Service she also served as an information officer and team leader on fires during the 1998 fire season and later produced the Firebrands newsletter that was distributed quarterly throughout Texas to Volunteer Fire Departments. Her most personal involvement in agriculture also came in 1998, when she married the love of her life and cotton farmer Preston Huguley of Olton, Texas. As a farmwife, she knows first-hand the ups and downs of farming, the endless decisions made each season based on “if” it rains, “if” the drought continues, “if” the market holds. She is the bookkeeper for their family farming operation and cherishes moments on the farm such as taking harvest meals to the field or starting a sprinkler in the summer with the whole family lending a hand. Shelley has also freelanced for agricultural companies such as Olton CO-OP Gin, producing the newsletter Cotton Connections while also designing marketing materials to promote the gin. She has published articles in agricultural publications such as Southwest Farm Press while also volunteering her marketing and writing skills to non-profit organizations such as Refuge Services, an equine-assisted therapy group in Lubbock. She and her husband reside in Olton with their three children Breely, Brennon and HalleeKate.

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