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Thankful for my farmer

Celebrating 25 years of marriage to my farmer.

Shelley E. Huguley, Editor

February 28, 2023

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Celebrating 25 years of marriage with my farmer. Courtesy of the Huguley Family

This month marks 25 years with my farmer. A quarter of a century as Mrs. Huguley. It’s amazing how much life changes in 25 years. We’ve always joked that we were a little late to the game. When we married, he was over 30 and I was in my late 20s, neither married before. We had our first child when I was 30 and our third when I was 38. I told him I wanted a fourth. He said he was too old, and it would have to be with my second husband, to which I countered, “I really like my first one.” We stopped at three.  

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I never felt like an “older” mom until my Little’s kinder graduation. Several moms were decorating the stage when one asked what year I graduated from high school. I proudly told her 1989. That’s when two of the moms whipped around and informed me that was the same year they were born. That pretty much sucked the wind out of my sails!  

When my farmer and I first got engaged, I told him I wanted a summer wedding. He quickly informed me that unless I wanted my honeymoon on the tractor, I better choose a late-winter or early-spring celebration. I went with February and got a church wedding and the Bahamas instead of a John Deere.  

My farmer proposed to me in a field flush with white cotton bolls on our dearly loved homeplace. Dressed in his navy, short-sleeved cotton t-shirt and work-worn Wranglers (my favorite) he led me into the field and as he was telling me about the beautiful crop he was about to harvest, he secretly placed my engagement ring in a cotton boll. He then drew my attention to the boll. When I saw the ring, I screamed. (It’s a good thing he asked me in a field.) He then went down on one knee, asking if I’d be his forever. I gave a resounding yes!    

I still remember that moment like it was yesterday. I loved that the backdrop for his proposal was a crop he had grown with his own two hands in a field he fought hard to purchase and restore. He’s been fighting for me and our three kids ever since. I’m not sure I know a harder worker.  

Like farming, marriage and parenting are a lot of work. Communication is hard and conflict inevitable.  Resolution and relationship take time, commitment, love and forgiveness and a whole lot of God. I’m so thankful Christ is our foundation. 

My farmer is the planner. I shoot from the hip. He’s on time (or he used to be.) I’m typically late. He thinks of the consequences and the work required. I typically focus only on the fun. Together, through misunderstandings and compromise, frustrations and agreement, we make it work. I’m grateful my farmer loves me like he does! Happy Anniversary! I can’t wait for the next 25!  

About the Author(s)

Shelley E. Huguley

Editor, Southwest Farm Press

Shelley Huguley has been involved in agriculture for the last 25 years. She began her career in agricultural communications at the Texas Forest Service West Texas Nursery in Lubbock, where she developed and produced the Windbreak Quarterly, a newspaper about windbreak trees and their benefit to wildlife, production agriculture and livestock operations. While with the Forest Service she also served as an information officer and team leader on fires during the 1998 fire season and later produced the Firebrands newsletter that was distributed quarterly throughout Texas to Volunteer Fire Departments. Her most personal involvement in agriculture also came in 1998, when she married the love of her life and cotton farmer Preston Huguley of Olton, Texas. As a farmwife, she knows first-hand the ups and downs of farming, the endless decisions made each season based on “if” it rains, “if” the drought continues, “if” the market holds. She is the bookkeeper for their family farming operation and cherishes moments on the farm such as taking harvest meals to the field or starting a sprinkler in the summer with the whole family lending a hand. Shelley has also freelanced for agricultural companies such as Olton CO-OP Gin, producing the newsletter Cotton Connections while also designing marketing materials to promote the gin. She has published articles in agricultural publications such as Southwest Farm Press while also volunteering her marketing and writing skills to non-profit organizations such as Refuge Services, an equine-assisted therapy group in Lubbock. She and her husband reside in Olton with their three children Breely, Brennon and HalleeKate.

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