We’ve learned a lot – how to work through our differences, what makes each other tick and how to conquer our problems together. And yes, we're still learning.
We often look at each other with that “deer-in-the-headlights" look when one says something the other has no clue about. We grew up only two hours from each other. Yet, there are more differences than you'd think in the phrases and words we say and the things we know and do. It's more than a "he" and "she" thing.
Sheilah: Shortly after we were married, Mike had an evening meeting with the county farmland preservation board. I decided to make brownies and was in the process of cleaning up when he came home.
Mike: What are you making?
Mike: What's all that other stuff for on the table?
Sheilah: That’s what I used for the brownies.
Mike: How did that all fit in the [brownie] box?
Sheilah: There's no box, you goof. I made them from scratch.
Mike: You mean you don’t have to have a box mix to make brownies?
Then there was our conversation about pepperoni rolls – a staple when it comes to eating lunch in the fields. One day, I asked Sheilah to pick some. She came home with pepperoni hot pockets.
Sheilah: How are you going to heat these up?
Mike: Those aren’t pepperoni rolls.
Sheilah: Yes, they are. There’s pepperoni in them.
Mike: No. I wanted pepperoni rolls, not hot pockets. It's like a dinner roll with pepperoni and cheese in the middle.
Sheilah: I have no idea what you’re talking about.
Mike: You’ve never eaten a pepperoni roll?
Sheilah: Ummm, no. Those don’t exist back home.
Mike: I thought Sheilah was crazy when she told me she never even seen one. I told her they were in the bakery section. And the next time we went to Walmart in Punxsutawney, I looked around the bakery. She was right. Not a pepperoni roll in sight.
Sheilah: My dad called me one morning to see how much snow we'd gotten overnight. "Just a skiff," I told him. He told me they had the same amount.
Mike: How much snow do they have?
Sheilah: They only got a skiff, too.
Mike: A what?
Sheilah: A skiff.
Mike: Did you make that word up?
Sheilah: No. Why?
Mike: I don’t know what this skiff is that you speak about.
Sheilah: Not very much, a dusting.
Mike: Oh. Why didn’t you say that?
Sheilah: I did. I said they got a skiff.
Mike: We had a major problem when it came to folding the laundry – especially my socks. Sheilah likes to fold the tops of hers together so they don’t get lost. I like mine to just be folded in pairs so the elastic doesn’t stretch.
Sheilah: My solution? Whoever folds the laundry gets to put the socks away however they choose.
Mike: These are just a few of the differences we have encountered. I’m sure there'll be a lot more along the way.
Nowadays when I ask Sheilah about something I don’t know, she just smiles and says: “It’s an Indiana County thing. You wouldn’t understand.”
Mike Reskovac is president of Pennsylvania Corn Growers Association. The Reskovacs farm near Uniontown, Pa. Read all their "Two Hearts, One Harvest" columns in American Agriculturist.
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